There are some really good reasons to homeschool. (There are some really good reasons to send your kids to public, private, and charter schools, too.)
But… there are also some bad reasons to choose to homeschool your kids.
And here are some of them:
Do not homeschool because of PRESSURE
Depending on the circles you roll in, maybe no one else homeschools, or maybe everyone does. If you know a lot of other families who choose to homeschool and feel strongly about their decision to do so, you might be wondering if you “should.” Is everyone supposed to? Are you wrong not to? Just because others are homeschooling, it doesn’t mean it’s the right option for you family. Or for you. Or for some of your kids. Or for this year. So don’t homeschool just because everybody else is doing it.
Do not homeschool because of LAZINESS
Let’s be honest, homeschooling is a lot of work and takes a lot of mom brain cells (which seem to be in short supply these days). However, it can also be done at your pace, on your timeline, and you don’t have to get kids on the bus at 7am with lunches packed, papers signed, and projects completed… wearing clothes that match. I love days where I don’t have to go anywhere and we can stay in our pj’s until 10am and eat popcorn and read stacks of books. Buuuut just promise me you won’t choose to homeschool because it seems like less work than back to school shopping, parent teacher conferences, and meeting the school bus on time.
Do not homeschool because of CONTROL
I do believe it’s my role as a parent to teach and train my kids. But I want them to learn how to think for themselves and grow into capable adults someday (I said someday…don’t rush it.) And as much as I might like to continue making all decisions for my kids (because, let’s be honest, I think I know best), I can’t and shouldn’t control and shelter them. Within our home I do have a lot more control than I would with them out in the big wide world, but I don’t want *controlling* my children to be my incentive for choosing to school them at home.
And that leads me to the 4th (and most dear to my heart) reason not to homeschool…
Do not homeschool because of FEAR
Fear. So much fear. I’ve never before experienced the deep, choking, consuming pit of fear like I have since becoming a mom. Do you know how many ways there are for our kids to get hurt? Sick? Bullied? Abused? Do you ever just want to wrap them in 47 layers of bubble wrap (organic, of course) and put them in pest and allergen-free environment where they only classical to music and play with hand-carved animal figurines. Oh, just me?
Yes, we want to protect our kids. Of course we do. That’s part of our job description, especially when they’re young. But I’m not God (can I get an “Amen”?!). God is God and He is in control and He holds my children and their lives and their futures and my quaking heart in His almighty arms. Listen to this:
‘He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High
will abide in the shadow of the Almighty.
I will say to the Lord, “My refuge and my fortress,
my God, in whom I trust.”’ Psalm 91:1 ESV
“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” John 14:27 ESV
I’m not saying there aren’t legitimate fears or tangible ways to protect our kids. For sure there are. But choosing to keep my kids at home because I can’t face the fear of letting my kids out of my site and out of my reach is not a good reason to homeschool.
All that said… I started homeschooling Miss E this past week! It’s exciting and scary and fun and overwhelming all at once. But more on that later. You now know 4 reasons things that were (hopefully) NOT the reason we decided to homeschool this year. Stay tuned for the reasons why we DID decide to homeschool!