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Why I Choose to Apologize to my Kids

November 12, 2015 by biz 2 Comments

“Cinderella’s mean step sisters talk like that.” The truth of her statement was like a punch in the gut.

Sometimes I amaze even myself with the patience and understanding I exhibit when it comes to the habits, distractions, and pace of life of a three year old.

Today was not that day.

I was tired. I was out of coffee (and patience). And I was tired. (Wait, did I already say that? Sorry, I’m tired.)
I asked her to go to the bathroom. She didn’t drop everything that instant and run so I barked out my orders again. She went. As.slowly.as.is.humanly.possible.

I decided to employ the intimidation technique, so I stomped up behind her (hoping it would scare her into running to the safety of the toilet, I suppose.) It backfired. Instead of running she froze.

So I moved onto the “encourage her along” technique by gently holding her shoulders and guiding her in the way she should go. Let’s just say it didn’t go over well.

Using a tone I’m not proud of, I told her to get in that bathroom ASAP. Or else. Or something like that.

She went in and I stood in the kitchen, head whirling. Where had that come from? That was no way to talk to anyone, least of all my precious little girl. I felt awful.

Should I apologize?

I knew I had been selfish. Impatient. And had not spoken kindly.

But should a parent apologize to their kids? Even their three year old?

In the next few seconds my mind made a pros and cons list.

Reasons not to apologize:

  • Cuz I’m the mom, that’s why.
  • Maybe apologizing will diminish her respect for me, undercut my authority, and make her think she has the upper hand
  • Listen to her talking to herself happily in there, she’s already moved on. Why bring it up? Maybe I didn’t act as badly as I felt I did.

But I had. And I would have apologized to any adult had I treated them that way.

So I did.

I got down to eye level and told her that I had been very impatient and had not talked to her kindly. I told her I was very sorry. She forgave me.

A minute later she quietly said, “Cinderella’s mean step sisters talk like that.”

I always thought I was sweet little Cinderella, but today the bossy, bullying step sisters within me had been exposed. And toward my baby girl.

I’m so thankful I chose to apologize. Because the way I treated her was not ok. I don’t want her to think it was ok. I don’t want her to treat other people like that. And if or when she ever does, I want her to know it’s ok to genuinely apologize.

And we lived happily ever after. At least until the next time I run out of coffee…

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Hello friend, I'm Biz. I'm so glad you're here! I blog about marriage and motherhood, homemaking and hospitality, clean eating and Christ following. Dandelion Discoveries is about living life with a perspective that goes against the norm. It’s seeing the beauty of a flower in the nuisance of a weed. Please sit down and stay a while! And I'd LOVE to hear from you.
  • Sharlee Hatch

    I love this. I apologize to my daughter–even though she really can’t understand yet-I think it’s important to set that example and to respect her as a person who deserves an apology because I still can be do things wrong or make poor choices, even though I am “the mom.” 🙂

    • Biz@DandelionDiscoveries

      Yes, exactly! We’re setting an example in everything we do, and maybe especially in those times we are in the wrong. I know I’m not perfect, and praise Jesus I don’t have to be. I want my kids to know that 🙂

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