8 Clues that Finally Convinced Me I’m an Introvert
I like people. I like going places. And I’m not necessarily shy. I’ll even raise my hand to ask a question, speak in front of a group, and plan parties and coordinate get-togethers…. But I’m an introvert?
Many of us have lived under the impression that introvert equals shy, and extrovert means outgoing. But think of it this way: What energizes you?
Well, if you’re an introvert, you may love people, but being around people drains you. You need some time on your own to recharge. Your home is your haven. A walk in the woods makes your soul feel alive. Being alone doesn’t make you feel lonely (you might actually feel most lonely in a crowd); in fact, you need time alone.
I would have considered myself an extrovert back in my younger days (ha!). However, I’ve been noticing some sort of “weird” things about myself, and finally realized they all add up to INTROVERT. Of course, we’re all a bit of both now and then (and who wants to be put in a box), but sometimes thinking through these things can help us understand ourselves (and others!) better.
Here are 8 Clues that finally convinced me I’m an Introvert:
- Talking on the phone fills me with dread. I’m sorry. No matter how much I love you, I will screen my calls and hope you leave me a voicemail with no callback required. (Hooray for texting!)
- My perfect day involves nothing on the calendar. I love making plans on the spot, but as soon as it goes on the calendar it becomes a “thing.” Of course, both of my little people appear to be extroverts. Most days start with “Where are we going today, Mom?!”
- When plans get cancelled I usually feel a sense of relief. Not that I don’t get disappointed when things don’t work out, but when my schedule gets cleared unexpectedly I feel relieved.
- Ok this one is hard to admit… I avoid people I know in the grocery store! I’m working on it. I’m sure I’ve missed so many opportunities. But my first impulse when I see someone I recognize is to avoid eye contact and duck into another aisle. Why is that?! I like you, I promise.
- I’m probably going to stay over here outskirts of the room, party, or event, and I usually avoid the church foyer on Sunday mornings. I’d love to have a conversation with you! But chit-chatting my way through a crowd is tough for me.
- Give me a job to do! I’m happy to chop veggies, serve hors d’oeuvres at a party, play with the kids, or boss people around (aka coordinate!). It’s not that I’m such a servant (although I hope and pray God continues to develop that heart in me), but being able to “do” something makes me feel grounded and secure. I loved working as a caterer. Even though I would be in a big group of people or serving during a cocktail hour, I had a job to do and knew my place.
- “I’m never bored. I might be lazy or unmotivated, but almost never bored.” A friend (and fellow introvert) described herself this way and I almost jumped up and shouted YES! There’s always a million things I could do to occupy myself. An evening alone, nap time, or that rare free day is never long enough for the things I could spend it doing. At home. On my own.
- I’m way more social online than in person. I’ve always been better at expressing myself through writing than speaking. (Yes, I’ll sometimes even email or text my husband something I’ve been wanting to talk to him about instead of talking in person. I’m not sure that’s healthy. Hmm.) But social media/texting/email (and blogging!) is awesome because I can interact with lots of people I wouldn’t otherwise get to talk to, while still being able to have the personal space I need and the time to process and think through my responses.
Ok now after reading this post, you either totally get me or you think I’m crazy. So how about you… INTROVERT or EXTROVERT?